Counseling Corner 1/2/14

Hey Guys,

I need some clarity and I am hoping the counseling corner can help. PLEASE do not share my name as this is an extremely sensitive issue and if my wife found out I wrote to you about this and it was on the radio, it would be very bad. I will tell you straight up – my wife is a spoiled brat. We've been married for almost 5 years, and in that time she has gotten worse about getting her own way on pretty much any thing. When we agree on things...all is well. However, if I want one thing and she wants another...99 times out of 100 we go with what she wants. This goes for everything from where we go out to eat, to what movies we see, to our vacations, and even a house we recently purchased. If she wants it...she gets it.

Now, I know this is partially my fault, because I give in. The reason I give in is because it cuts down on the arguments, the stress, and the time spent on making decisions. In the rare instances when I do get what I want, I get the silent treatment, or even worse – she will point out every little thing that is wrong with my decision and the flaws that go along with it. She'll do it in a passive aggressive way so as not to draw attention if we are out...but the fact is she does it. Sometimes I feel like I can't win. If I give in, I lose...and if I win...I lose. They say “Happy wife...happy life.” I am having a hard time buying into this.

Any help/suggestions?